The Perfect Parent
In the tired yet blissful haze of new motherhood When I found out I was pregnant with my first child, I remember thinking, this is one thing I am going to do 100% and I’m not going to screw it up. In...
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My kids slept out at their grandparent’s last night. I slept in this morning, something I almost never do. Shortly after I awoke, I went on Facebook on my iphone by rote. I found the usual blather and...
View ArticleChildren Need Their Fathers…Duh!
I’ll admit, when my kids’ dad said he wanted to split up and was hitting the road, my first impulse was to hoard my children, shield them from their dad’s apparent mid-life crisis, and start a new life...
View ArticleSome Dads are Morons…Deal with it!
Some moms are morons too, but for the purpose of this conversation, I want to talk about dads. It’s precisely because I feel so strongly that children need their fathers, that I am so upset and...
View ArticleParenting in Ten Words
1. Love 2. No Privacy (okay that’s two words but I couldn’t find one word that captures the sentiment) 3. Culpability 4. Fucking Homework (two again…so sue me) 5. Vomit 6. Vulnerability 7. Despair 8....
View ArticleRedefining Fatherhood
I had a birth father and I have a step-father. Both of them loved me. Both of them imparted wisdom. Both of them caused me a great deal of grief. The one I consider my real dad is my step-dad. The one...
View ArticleThe Ten Rules of Divorce Mediation
So after the first grueling hour of meeting with a mediator, I learned quite a lot. Now, the question is, will the ex and I follow these rules? 1. No fault divorce means No fault mediation. The...
View ArticleParent Gushing Facebook Translation
In light of the recent flurry of verbose parents’ ranting status updates about their fabulous children on Facebook, here is my translation of the subtext of said posts: My child is so utterly...
View ArticleChange or Die?
Self-acceptance vs. Change I’ve been wondering as I sift through the barrage of platitudes on facebook, twitter, and various blogs, am I to accept myself and my strengths and weaknesses? Or am I to...
View ArticleWhat to do (or not to do) when your son’s been Inhabited by a Minecraft...
You want to make your life exceedingly challenging? Do what I just did. Ban your child from accessing electronics for an entire weekend. Oh yeah, this was necessary. The original offense was playing on...
View ArticleA family is a tyranny ruled over by its weakest member. -George Bernard Shaw
Anyone who has multiple children knows that there’s always one who causes the most trouble. This is normal and I’ve always tried to remind myself that my more challenging child just has different needs...
View ArticleMake Every Worry a Wish…
“Life is full of misery, loneliness, and suffering – and it’s all over much too soon.” - Woody Allen I made one of my resolutions early this year. After the massacre in Newtown, I made a conscious...
View ArticleBeyond Humbled…
I can’t shake this sense of grief and preoccupation with the unfathomable loss of the families in Newtown Connecticut. I will deal with my divorce and my daily life. But, I can’t imagine ever believing...
View ArticleWhen 20 children die, everything else seems trivial; Rephrase, everything...
My kids slept out at their grandparent’s last night. I slept in this morning, something I almost never do. Shortly after I awoke, I went on Facebook on my iphone by rote. I found the usual blather and...
View ArticleChildren Need Their Fathers…Duh!
I’ll admit, when my kids’ dad said he wanted to split up and was hitting the road, my first impulse was to hoard my children, spare them from their dad’s ensuing mid-life crisis, and start a new life...
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